Can your relationship be saved when he says he's leaving?

I know how it feels to want to "fix" things with a man and the urgency you feel to get it done quick .

And - I'm going to ask you now to suspend any beliefs or thoughts you've had up until this moment about how to "get" a man or "make him want to stay".

The first thing you must do is lean way back here. He feels your urgency and your desire to make it right - and instead if drawing him in - it is instead pushing him further away.

No matter how in love a man is - he still wants to feel like he is free - free to make his own choices, and free from being responsible for how someone else feels.

Radical change happens when you can shift your energy from urgent to open.

And the quickest way to do this is "Circular Dating."

I know it feels so counter-intuitive to imagine this, yet for you to make the change in your energy that is the best way to get there.

What is circular dating?

It's simply "free therapy."

You find things to fill up your calendar that really light you up - and that aren't dependent on him (or any man participating).

Going on dates with other men can help - and it isn't necessary if that feels too icky right now.

What is necessary is that while you're out in the world, living your best life, you stay open to everyone you meet.

Men are fascinated by women who live a full and vibrant life.

This is where "feeling messages" begin and are perfected.

When you are interacting with everyone out in the world, you begin to speak directly from your heart - being completely open and authentic with what you feel at any given moment.

There is magic in this method. It creates an openness and vulnerability that fosters real deep connection.

Simply put, when you're talking with someone, use the words "I feel, I'm feeling or I felt."

For example: When the Barista at your morning coffee stop asks "What can I get you?"

Instead of just replying with your order - you can say "I feel chilly this morning. A warm mocha with no whip would feel so warm and soothing."

We're accessing your inner poet here - and really sinking into how you feel.

The way this works with men is - it builds a bridge right from your heart to his!

He's hearing how you feel - without blame or responsibility.

He can hear you - without the need to shut down or run away.

The key here, is to stay open to any outcome!

Whether he decides to come toward you again, or continues to move away, this is an invaluable shift that will benefit you - no matter what he does!

If you would like some more help with this, or would like some more tools to help you through it all, you can schedule a free consultation with me here.